October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The Actual Dance tells a story of MY journey in response to Susan’s diagnosis of stage 3 breast cancer in 2000
In recognition of Breast Cancer Awareness Month I post a blog each day with a reflection about breast cancer. The reflections all stem from something in the play.
Day 29: LOVE “It did not take us very long to fall in love, though I don’t think two twenty year olds understood what love really meant. So in 1965 we decided to get married.” The Actual Dance
Yesterday I talked about the “Magic Words” of the psychiatrist I went to see to help me confront the task I thought I was convinced I could not perform: be with Susan as she took her last breath. I could not imagine doing it and then I said: “I now understand that The Actual Dance will be the ultimate consummation of our Love.”
I often think about our journey together now of 50 years of marriage and how my understanding of love has evolved. In 1966 I think it was a combination of idea, urge, and ego. An idea of love, and sexual urge and the ego of having someone want to be my wife. In 2000 and even more today love I understand is about something more intimate and more essential. I don’t know how or when exactly it happens but it does and this is what it is, from the poem US , “love is when our essence became entwined, each and equal half of the other.”
No one wants illness but the intimacy of facing death can create eternal bonds. What is so amazing though is that we continue together in this world intertwined in the most intimate of ways. We don’t need an idea, or an urge or an ego. Indeed, I believe Jacob Needleman’s concept of love being the vehicle for our mates struggle for meaning.
Stat of the Day: There are about 6,200 wedding a day in the United States with the average age of the bride being 25.3 years and the average age of the groom being 26.9 years. Source
Task of the Day: Say “I love you” to your spouse. “I love you simply awakens the US in you and me.”
Resource of the Day: Okay—I have given this link before – it isn’t quite what I’m talking about and yet it will make your day. What Love really Means by JJ Heller.
The Actual Dance: Performances. Donate.
In recognition of Breast Cancer Awareness Month I post a blog each day with a reflection about breast cancer. The reflections all stem from something in the play.
Day 29: LOVE “It did not take us very long to fall in love, though I don’t think two twenty year olds understood what love really meant. So in 1965 we decided to get married.” The Actual Dance
Yesterday I talked about the “Magic Words” of the psychiatrist I went to see to help me confront the task I thought I was convinced I could not perform: be with Susan as she took her last breath. I could not imagine doing it and then I said: “I now understand that The Actual Dance will be the ultimate consummation of our Love.”
I often think about our journey together now of 50 years of marriage and how my understanding of love has evolved. In 1966 I think it was a combination of idea, urge, and ego. An idea of love, and sexual urge and the ego of having someone want to be my wife. In 2000 and even more today love I understand is about something more intimate and more essential. I don’t know how or when exactly it happens but it does and this is what it is, from the poem US , “love is when our essence became entwined, each and equal half of the other.”
No one wants illness but the intimacy of facing death can create eternal bonds. What is so amazing though is that we continue together in this world intertwined in the most intimate of ways. We don’t need an idea, or an urge or an ego. Indeed, I believe Jacob Needleman’s concept of love being the vehicle for our mates struggle for meaning.
Stat of the Day: There are about 6,200 wedding a day in the United States with the average age of the bride being 25.3 years and the average age of the groom being 26.9 years. Source
Task of the Day: Say “I love you” to your spouse. “I love you simply awakens the US in you and me.”
Resource of the Day: Okay—I have given this link before – it isn’t quite what I’m talking about and yet it will make your day. What Love really Means by JJ Heller.
The Actual Dance: Performances. Donate.
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